Readers–How Do You Cope With a “Mixed Marriage”?
Posted by Sue
I’m not talking about mixed religion, not even mixed race or nationality. Then what? I’m talking about readers who marry non-readers. Can there be any bigger divide!
I love to read. I read a lot, always have and, God willing, always will. I read on a wide variety of subjects and genres. I was the kid who read the backs of the cereal boxes as I ate my cold cereal before school. When it came time to give a book report (which I hated doing–it ruined the book), I had to decide which of the many books I’d recently read that I would do the report on.
I never read while driving a car, nor can I read while riding in one–motion sickness. I must confess that I sometimes read in the bathroom. I read magazines in waiting rooms. While I was still working and earning a regular income, I subscribed to about 10-15 different magazines. As soon as one would come, I would sit down and devour it in about half an hour to forty-five minutes, depending. Much of my spending money went to buy books. When I received a Kindle for Mother’s Day a few years ago, I found another reading medium! (Now that I have a Kindle, I buy many fewer books, but I don’t read any less.) Reading was and is a daily constant in my life.
So what’s the problem?
My DH (Dear Husband) is not a reader. Oh, he reads a little, but he feels that fiction is a waste of time. He rarely reads anything but nonfiction, mostly devotion-type books. And that, Dear Reader, brings me to my problem. Don’t get me wrong. My DH is a good man, but since he doesn’t read, he has a non-reader mindset. He thinks buying books is a waste of money and reading them is a waste of time. (Strangely enough, he is fine with my WRITING books.) He complains that I read too much and spend too much money on books/magazines. Now sometimes I can just let all this scolding slide off my back, but sometimes it gets to me. So, I’m asking you readers out there who are married to non-readers.
What are your methods for coping with the great reading divide?
About SueFrom the time, as a young girl, when Sue read the Narnia series by C.S. Lewis, she was hooked on fantasy. She loves to read fiction and write within many genres, but she always winds up going back to fantasy. For years she has had fantasy stories spinning around in her head and now that she is retired from many years of teaching, she is putting those stories into book form. She has many interests, including quilting and playing the mountain dulcimer, but writing is the most satisfying of all. Sue lives in the great state of Maine with her husband of 38 years. She has been a factory worker, a waitress, a librarian, and a teacher. Her biggest job was being a mother and she has three grown children. Now that she is a grandmother, she is enjoying that role immensely.
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