What Are You Willing to Give Up?

Do you ache and yearn for something to be different in your life?  Anything?  What?  Most of us want.  The trick is, how to get what we want.

What do you want?  Do you want to be a writer?  A published writer? A best-selling writer?

Or maybe you want a better relationship with your spouse? Or child?  Do you want peace in your life?  Or maybe you want excitement or to travel?  Do you want to learn something?  How to play a musical instrument?  How to speak another language?  Do you want to be happy?  Have your children respect you? Your spouse to love you?

What are you willing to give up to get it?  Ah, there’s the rub.  Stop and think.  If I want this, what must I do to get it?  What do you give up? Time? Money? Privacy?   Or even more difficult to give up: Your anger.  Your arrogance.  Your self-righteousness.  Being right all the time, even when you’re wrong.  Blaming others.  Refusing to say, “I’m sorry.”

Tradeoffs.  We can’t have it all.

If we want to be a writer, then we must write.  Time must be taken from the day and set aside for writing.  Not playing computer games.  Not doing Twitter.  Not marketing.  Writing.

If we want to be a published writer, then we must hone our writing skills, learn to revise and edit, edit, edit.  Time again.  Perhaps money, too.  Taking courses to learn new methods.  No matter how good you are, you can always learn something new.

If we want to be a bestselling author?  If I knew the answer to that one, I’d be rich!

What are you willing to give up?


About Sue

From the time, as a young girl, when Sue read the Narnia series by C.S. Lewis, she was hooked on fantasy. She loves to read fiction and write within many genres, but she always winds up going back to fantasy. For years she has had fantasy stories spinning around in her head and now that she is retired from many years of teaching, she is putting those stories into book form. She has many interests, including quilting and playing the mountain dulcimer, but writing is the most satisfying of all. Sue lives in the great state of Maine with her husband of 38 years. She has been a factory worker, a waitress, a librarian, and a teacher. Her biggest job was being a mother and she has three grown children. Now that she is a grandmother, she is enjoying that role immensely.

Posted on August 1, 2011, in about writing, Authors - Sue Santore and tagged . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Great post Sue- and welcome to the asylum!

    I was struck by your theme of trade-offs, and I wonder. The TIME element is important too- when folks want something like you mention, they want it NOW. They don’t want a process, they’re looking to transact (as with money)- if I give up this, I get that, no waiting. Magic wish in a ring, to use an example from my world. Also in my kind of tale, the hero has already proven worthy, so the wanted-thing comes as a reward, the end of a process, not the start.

    But part of the compromise process is you don’t know how fast it will come to you. Or if. Hard work is cool, but “becoming a better writer”? No guarantees- you have to throw in the effort, the time, maybe the money, and then… well, we’ll see. Part of what makes it so daunting, I think.

    Fortunately, speaking only for myself and only for my writing, I have an advantage. The writing, in and of itself, makes me happy. I’m seeking to do it (yes, the computer games too!) with my free time, hoping to have more so I can write more. Interacting with other authors brings me fulfillment as does getting the darn thing out on the web. And that comes not all at once, but gradually and in equal measure to what I put in. As I said, I’m lucky.

    So my hat’s off especially to someone who puts in the effort without knowing whether it will pay off, and without seeing the progress at first. Supporting a family, as one example- often you have to search for those moments where “it’s happening”, and treasure them. No one loves unrequited effort and uncertainty, though.

    Again, welcome!

    Will Hahn

  2. Will, thanks for your thoughtful comment. I agree that many people want it all, right now. For me, time is one of the biggest items I have to juggle. I don’t have the demands of children anymore, but there are so many things I need to do or want to do; it’s hard fitting them all in. But since we really can’t have it all, I juggle. Sometimes this; sometimes that. You’re right. It can’t come all at once. I think anything we do well (for me, anyway), has to come gradually with practice. Happy writing to you!

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