Readers–How Do You Cope With a “Mixed Marriage”?
Posted by Sue
I’m not talking about mixed religion, not even mixed race or nationality. Then what? I’m talking about readers who marry non-readers. Can there be any bigger divide!
I love to read. I read a lot, always have and, God willing, always will. I read on a wide variety of subjects and genres. I was the kid who read the backs of the cereal boxes as I ate my cold cereal before school. When it came time to give a book report (which I hated doing–it ruined the book), I had to decide which of the many books I’d recently read that I would do the report on.
I never read while driving a car, nor can I read while riding in one–motion sickness. I must confess that I sometimes read in the bathroom. I read magazines in waiting rooms. While I was still working and earning a regular income, I subscribed to about 10-15 different magazines. As soon as one would come, I would sit down and devour it in about half an hour to forty-five minutes, depending. Much of my spending money went to buy books. When I received a Kindle for Mother’s Day a few years ago, I found another reading medium! (Now that I have a Kindle, I buy many fewer books, but I don’t read any less.) Reading was and is a daily constant in my life.
So what’s the problem?
My DH (Dear Husband) is not a reader. Oh, he reads a little, but he feels that fiction is a waste of time. He rarely reads anything but nonfiction, mostly devotion-type books. And that, Dear Reader, brings me to my problem. Don’t get me wrong. My DH is a good man, but since he doesn’t read, he has a non-reader mindset. He thinks buying books is a waste of money and reading them is a waste of time. (Strangely enough, he is fine with my WRITING books.) He complains that I read too much and spend too much money on books/magazines. Now sometimes I can just let all this scolding slide off my back, but sometimes it gets to me. So, I’m asking you readers out there who are married to non-readers.
What are your methods for coping with the great reading divide?